Sisterhood, Heal, Edify

Being able to look someone in the eye and say NO without feeling guilty or without explaining myself is one of the most awesome things ever for me. Growing up, I wasn't ever able to say No to people's requests. Oh wait, I think the only firm time I strongly ever said no to anyone while growing up, was in high school when my friends were trying to give me a boyfriend. My no was a resounding NO, but apart from that event, I couldn't always say no to people. It always took too much energy for me to do it because I never wanted anyone to feel bad. At my own expense, I took up commitments I didn't want to take up, I said yes to things I naturally wanted to say no to so I could please the next person. 2015, I joined an organization and became part of the executives, but I wanted so badly to leave after a few months. In those months, I looked back at my life and began to feel like a failure. I counted the many things I had been part of in the past, and how many o...

He Raped me continuously when no one was home - how do I face the stigma of having an abortion? They say my mum dropped me by their doorstep when I was 3. I can barely tell how she looks like or what being with her felt like. Mama Bisi took me in. I spend most of my days cleaning and cooking. Her 3 children have the luxury of living like kings and queens. If I am not on the parlour floor sitting to watch a movie (which I was hardly allowed to), I am sleeping on a wrapper on the floor in the parlour. On this fateful night, Mama Bisi had gone for vigil, while her first two children were away in the university. Her last son was watching a movie up until 1am. being that I was barely allowed to watch tv when Mama was around, I jumped at the opportunity. before I could tell what was happening, Fade had his arms around me and before I could blink, had defiled me. This became a ritual every night, no one was home. I had missed my period and couldn't understand how my body was...

There are times in our lives when the light feels so far from our reach - our souls grow blind from being too fond of the dark. Being a daughter, a sister, a lover and a friend, most times overpowers our very existence. In our darkest moments, we have most times had to fight our battles crying silently. Either for the fear of being judged or looked down on. Oftentimes, because there was indeed no one to lean on. Some of us are still fighting our battles and some of us will never stop fighting. We are just like you and we indeed understand. SHE is a sisterhood created for girls just like us. Girls who have had similar battles, Girls who are still fighting, Girls who know what it’s like to lose and still have to rise. Girls who are reaching out to be a source of support or to be a support system to many other girls out there. This is us inviting you to come on board this journey of self-discovery and redefinition. Sharing our experiences and edifying one another as we move forw...